While in Target, by myself, last night....yep...by myself--otherwise I wouldn't have noticed this gross behavior.....and it WAS NOT by kids!!!! There was a Grandma, Mom and her 2 kids--one about 18 months and one about 10-12 years old. How can a mother and a grandmother treat children and grandchildren differently????? They were so about the baby and look at her, watch her and stories about her. They COMPLETELY ignored the other girl talking about her favorite chips, what happened at school and things she liked to do....(I was behind them for several aisles in the grocery section) So what happened...she stopped talking and followed behind....listening to the tales of the baby....how she spent the night before with her other grandma and came home hair fixed nicely, dressed in some nice new outfit--all clean and beautiful....until 5 minutes later when she was playing in the mud while her mom was gardening.....ha ha ha ha and the poor older girl was so sad and left out. My heart broke for her.
I remember so clearly, a friend reminding me that I have 2 kids and being afraid that I couldn't love Lauren as much since Anna was the 'golden child'. I am proud to say that love multiplied in this house by adding a second--it wasn't divided! I work very hard to maintain equality with them. That is the only thing I can do and the only thing I am responsible for--my relationship with my girls. I have come to realize that my relationship with them is the only one I have control over. I love spending time with them so putting in the time today for the relationship of tomorrow is easy for me. I love the occasional break but I can not stand to be away from them for long. Really--if I am honest--I get antsy beyond a few hours ad start missing them!!! The time goes so fast.....jump on and enjoy the ride. All that to say I was so sad to see the mother and the grandmother treat these 2 so differently....how will the child turn out? Mine know they are wanted--we have fun together most of the time--it is not all sunshine and flowers but a lot of it is. We are excited for summer and the weeks and weekends of fun!!!
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That is always a shame. I really enjoy each of my girls. Yes, there are different types of bonds with each one and times when one needs a little more than another...but my love and the pride I have...well it just grows with every moment in their sweet lives! Our girls are blessings from God...and He gave us Mommy's the ability to love more than we every thought was humanly possible!
How sad, I shiver at the thought of what is going on in that girls mind and where her life might possibly be headed. No one at any age wants to be ignored. Thank you God for my sweet blessing that You have given me, may I never take them for granted.
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